To: Paradigm Of Thought, Jeff,
I very much enjoyed reading this entire post, more so than the first one. The first part just seemed to be missing too many points and wasn’t clear in some places. As a whole (almost), this comes across very well. However, P.O.T. you did yourself one powerful injustice and to a degree put your argument and your entire post back into question: “No, the only thing stopping you from success is you, nothing more.” Unfortunately, that single statement out of all of them, may make ADDers pause and question whether you have ADHD, or if you are simply doing research and trying to debunk the ADHD myth.
This is my story in a nutshell:
Father: “No, the only thing stopping you from success is you, nothing more.”
Teachers: “No, the only thing stopping you from success is you, nothing more.”
Anyone that gave me directions as a youth or young adult and up to, heck, not long ago: “No, the only thing stopping you from success is you, nothing more.” Why, pray tell, did I go undiagnosed for so long? Is it any wonder? I don’t mean to be sarcastic or facetious, but that statement gets me going. We’ve heard that too many times, we’ve been knocked down, kicked, ridiculed and chastised continuously with that very statement. I, for one, am tired of it.
No, actually, it was ADHD. Yes, I know I have become known for my stance on positive thinking in connection with ADHD, but sometimes folks that get upset about my positive message, skip over the parts where I discuss our everyday hardships. And not to mention, I was very lucky to go through a decade of professional therapy with a very good therapist (not too many of those out there). Once, (as with Jeff here –sorry Jeff) go back and read my entire message (books/blog/etc), I think they get a better understanding of where I am coming from.
Yes, the power of positive thinking works! I agree wholeheartedly, but you are avoiding the ‘hows’ and the ‘whys’ and when you list so many people of success in such a debate, you really need to include what got them there – what were their resources? Resources, time and place (circumstances) have a lot to do with their success and yes, ADD, may well play a part too, as I think it does (each part of us makes the whole). Without those listed you are selling your argument short and actually, not hammering your point home. I think I could help you with your debate, but I am trying to stay out of it – see how successful I am at that?!
Still, I am not here to agree with the doubters of positive thinking, I was pulling for you. I sincerely believe in the power of positive thinking thanks to my past, my circumstances, what I learned and overcome thanks to therapy with a very wise therapist. That’s what I try to share. Just saying: “No, the only thing stopping you from success is you, nothing more,” doesn’t cut it and calls ADHD into doubt! This whole argument now comes across as ADHD is fraud from that single statement. And you were on such a good roll.
Now, if you would have wrote something like “No, the only thing stopping you from success is lack of treatment, coping strategies, support and cultivating a healthy, positive mental attitude.” Well, I could work with that.
Sorry, struck a nerve with just one all too common, predictable statement. I sincerely do believe you meant well, though. So, in all, a very good effort, my suggestion would be to modify that line to encompass the very real challenges of ADHD, at least give them a wink or a nod.