Comments on: The Gift Of…. http://jeffsaddmind.com/the-gift-of-489.htm If ADD Is A Gift...Can I Return It For Something Else? Tue, 07 Feb 2012 20:55:00 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.1 By: Scott Hutson http://jeffsaddmind.com/the-gift-of-489.htm/comment-page-1#comment-11492 Scott Hutson Thu, 10 Sep 2009 13:43:39 +0000 http://jeffsaddmind.com/the-gift-of-489.htm#comment-11492 Betsy, You asked: "What is next?"....My last comment just brought to my attn.,,,I forgot to tag my boat and motor last june. I will be giving the "gift" of a late fee to the OKLA. Tax commision. Scott. Betsy, You asked: “What is next?”….My last comment just brought to my attn.,,,I forgot to tag my boat and motor last june. I will be giving the “gift” of a late fee to the OKLA. Tax commision.

Scott.

]]> By: Scott Hutson http://jeffsaddmind.com/the-gift-of-489.htm/comment-page-1#comment-11490 Scott Hutson Thu, 10 Sep 2009 13:23:15 +0000 http://jeffsaddmind.com/the-gift-of-489.htm#comment-11490 To me, it's like when I bought a compound miter saw w/a "lifetime Gaurantee" that came w/a gift..a crappy plastic level,that was warped...can't return that "Gift". But the miter saw works great. I use the level to wrap my anchor rope,for my boat,around. Scott. To me, it’s like when I bought a compound miter saw w/a “lifetime Gaurantee” that came w/a gift..a crappy plastic level,that was warped…can’t return that “Gift”. But the miter saw works great. I use the level to wrap my anchor rope,for my boat,around.

Scott.

]]> By: betsy davenport, phd http://jeffsaddmind.com/the-gift-of-489.htm/comment-page-1#comment-11479 betsy davenport, phd Thu, 10 Sep 2009 09:35:07 +0000 http://jeffsaddmind.com/the-gift-of-489.htm#comment-11479 Speaking of gifts -- There is the gift of a headache, which affords one an afternoon in a darkened room from time to time. And the gift of a nosebleed, which tints one's clothes pink. And the gift of tooth decay, which enables a person to befriend a dentist! Good lord. WHat is next? Speaking of gifts –
There is the gift of a headache, which affords one an afternoon in a darkened room from time to time.

And the gift of a nosebleed, which tints one’s clothes pink.

And the gift of tooth decay, which enables a person to befriend a dentist!

Good lord. WHat is next?

]]> By: Crimson http://jeffsaddmind.com/the-gift-of-489.htm/comment-page-1#comment-11393 Crimson Wed, 09 Sep 2009 10:10:17 +0000 http://jeffsaddmind.com/the-gift-of-489.htm#comment-11393 Scott That's just too funny LOL Katy - Amen to the "No need to blow sunshine up anyone’s bums" as to the "gift" aspect, there's alot of sunshine going around these days, and to me (and this is only my PERCEPTION) it's just a way to defy reality and gloss over the "negative" aspects - one way to sleep at night I guess! One definiton of "gift" is a special ability or capacity; natural endowment; talent ... I don't think I would define ADD as a gift. It has 'gifts" associated with it, it also has detriments or disadvantages. To find a balance between the two, to find some sense of harmony, I truly think would be benefical to both my husband and my son. The "negative" aspects, which would be beneficial in certain jobs and/or situations, cannot be turned on and off at will (generally!) and usually aren't helpful towards achieving a stable, secure family unit, emtional bonds, work situations, or romantic relationships....I mean, hey, war movies are not foreplay, hyperfocus on everything but me, and disjointed conversations do not a happy couple make!!! This, mind you, is all my perception! Please, just look me in the eye once in a while so I know you're on the planet with me and that I'm important...... Crimson Scott
That’s just too funny LOL
Katy – Amen to the “No need to blow sunshine up anyone’s bums” as to the “gift” aspect, there’s alot of sunshine going around these days, and to me (and this is only my PERCEPTION) it’s just a way to defy reality and gloss over the “negative” aspects – one way to sleep at night I guess!
One definiton of “gift” is a special ability or capacity; natural endowment; talent … I don’t think I would define ADD as a gift. It has ‘gifts” associated with it, it also has detriments or disadvantages. To find a balance between the two, to find some sense of harmony, I truly think would be benefical to both my husband and my son.
The “negative” aspects, which would be beneficial in certain jobs and/or situations, cannot be turned on and off at will (generally!) and usually aren’t helpful towards achieving a stable, secure family unit, emtional bonds, work situations, or romantic relationships….I mean, hey, war movies are not foreplay, hyperfocus on everything but me, and disjointed conversations do not a happy couple make!!! This, mind you, is all my perception!
Please, just look me in the eye once in a while so I know you’re on the planet with me and that I’m important……
Crimson

]]> By: Scott Hutson http://jeffsaddmind.com/the-gift-of-489.htm/comment-page-1#comment-11346 Scott Hutson Tue, 08 Sep 2009 20:38:32 +0000 http://jeffsaddmind.com/the-gift-of-489.htm#comment-11346 So many gifts of A.D.D.! I could write a book about it,if I could remember where I put all the stuff I wrote about it. But it's hard to remember stuff, when you have 28 chidren running all over the house because you forgot where you put the new condoms and used the old ones that you forgot were re-called by the condom comanpany. Lots more gifts to tell about, but I can't remember what they are. Scott. (I think thats my name) So many gifts of A.D.D.! I could write a book about it,if I could remember where I put all the stuff I wrote about it. But it’s hard to remember stuff, when you have 28 chidren running all over the house because you forgot where you put the new condoms and used the old ones that you forgot were re-called by the condom comanpany.

Lots more gifts to tell about, but I can’t remember what they are.

Scott. (I think thats my name)

]]> By: Katy B. http://jeffsaddmind.com/the-gift-of-489.htm/comment-page-1#comment-11335 Katy B. Tue, 08 Sep 2009 17:20:39 +0000 http://jeffsaddmind.com/the-gift-of-489.htm#comment-11335 If ADHD was all positive and wasn't impairing us at all, we wouldn't all be running around looking for ways to "fix" it...there is a lot of variance of course in the ways people are affected and some clearly have a harder time than others obviously...we all have our trials though :) Thanks re: blog...I realized that I have the ability to articulate my experience in an accessible way and that's not something everyone is able to do...because of that, I feel it's very important that I share my experience. There's a lot of people having opinions out there about what ADHD is an isn't. More voices from the "inside" need to be heard. Plus, I get so much from reading about other people's experiences that it's only fair to return the favor ;) If ADHD was all positive and wasn’t impairing us at all, we wouldn’t all be running around looking for ways to “fix” it…there is a lot of variance of course in the ways people are affected and some clearly have a harder time than others obviously…we all have our trials though :)

Thanks re: blog…I realized that I have the ability to articulate my experience in an accessible way and that’s not something everyone is able to do…because of that, I feel it’s very important that I share my experience. There’s a lot of people having opinions out there about what ADHD is an isn’t. More voices from the “inside” need to be heard. Plus, I get so much from reading about other people’s experiences that it’s only fair to return the favor ;)

]]> By: Jeff http://jeffsaddmind.com/the-gift-of-489.htm/comment-page-1#comment-11299 Jeff Tue, 08 Sep 2009 09:33:36 +0000 http://jeffsaddmind.com/the-gift-of-489.htm#comment-11299 Katy, I'm in complete agreement with you. Focusing ONLY on the positive (whether there is such a "positive" is another story) is the real problem because it can blind you to the very real negatives that need to be addressed. You have a wonderful blog, by the way. I love the name "18 Channels." Katy,

I’m in complete agreement with you. Focusing ONLY on the positive (whether there is such a “positive” is another story) is the real problem because it can blind you to the very real negatives that need to be addressed.

You have a wonderful blog, by the way. I love the name “18 Channels.”

]]> By: Katy B. http://jeffsaddmind.com/the-gift-of-489.htm/comment-page-1#comment-11280 Katy B. Tue, 08 Sep 2009 03:32:30 +0000 http://jeffsaddmind.com/the-gift-of-489.htm#comment-11280 Oh and can we add to the list "The Gift of No Effing Common Sense"? We struggled with that with our last office assistant and it left me thinking "um, I have ADHD and make better decisions than you...this is a problem...". Oh but wait, having no common sense made it possible for her to make it really obvious that she was a bad fit for our office...so it really was a gift ;) Oh and can we add to the list “The Gift of No Effing Common Sense”? We struggled with that with our last office assistant and it left me thinking “um, I have ADHD and make better decisions than you…this is a problem…”.

Oh but wait, having no common sense made it possible for her to make it really obvious that she was a bad fit for our office…so it really was a gift ;)

]]> By: Katy B. http://jeffsaddmind.com/the-gift-of-489.htm/comment-page-1#comment-11278 Katy B. Tue, 08 Sep 2009 03:28:05 +0000 http://jeffsaddmind.com/the-gift-of-489.htm#comment-11278 Bwahaha.... I just want to advocate for Satan for a minute though, bear with me...I actually totally get where you're coming from about the obnoxiousness of the "total gift mentality" about ADHD, because heaven knows ADHD kicks me in the head on a daily basis. However...sometimes I DO find it helpful for very practical purposes to recognize that some of my ADHD induced ridiculousness can be channeled for good--or at least that being honest about it can help me make more realistic choices in my life. For example...I know that I'm better with big pictures and systems creations than with daily details. Part A is good...Part B is god-damned inconvenient. When hiring for my office am I going to hire someone who is like me? Or am I going to hire someone whose skills are complementary, so that we can tackle the job as a team? We hired a detail person. Doesn't mean I never have to deal with details...just means that we've planned realistically...and that everyone's strengths AND weaknesses are accounted for. No need to blow sunshine up anyone's bums or anything...but focusing on the positive can sometimes help you make more realistic choices about dealing with relative inadequacies :) I don't think it's focusing on the positive that's the problem, it's focusing ONLY on the positive that is unrealistic horsesh*t...but...maybe I'm being redundant...lol... Bwahaha….

I just want to advocate for Satan for a minute though, bear with me…I actually totally get where you’re coming from about the obnoxiousness of the “total gift mentality” about ADHD, because heaven knows ADHD kicks me in the head on a daily basis. However…sometimes I DO find it helpful for very practical purposes to recognize that some of my ADHD induced ridiculousness can be channeled for good–or at least that being honest about it can help me make more realistic choices in my life. For example…I know that I’m better with big pictures and systems creations than with daily details. Part A is good…Part B is god-damned inconvenient. When hiring for my office am I going to hire someone who is like me? Or am I going to hire someone whose skills are complementary, so that we can tackle the job as a team? We hired a detail person. Doesn’t mean I never have to deal with details…just means that we’ve planned realistically…and that everyone’s strengths AND weaknesses are accounted for.

No need to blow sunshine up anyone’s bums or anything…but focusing on the positive can sometimes help you make more realistic choices about dealing with relative inadequacies :) I don’t think it’s focusing on the positive that’s the problem, it’s focusing ONLY on the positive that is unrealistic horsesh*t…but…maybe I’m being redundant…lol…

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