Advice for the Adult (and not so adult) ADHDer
We’ve all grown up with stories like the tooth fairy who exchanges teeth for money, or a Santa Claus who brings gifts for the children, or the miraculous healing power of mommy’s kiss for your scraped knee. (Editor’s Note: In homophobic cultures, “tooth fairies” may be known as “tooth deliverymen.” In non-Christian cultures, “Santa Claus” [...]
The Story We Tell Ourselves
…we can be blind to the obvious, and we are also blind to our blindness. – Daniel Kahneman, Thinking, Fast and Slow Everyone has a story to help them understand themselves and their relationship to the world. It is their personal explanation of who they are and why they do the things they do. It [...]
Marko Ferek and the Holy Trinity of Self-Delusion
For years I assumed that everyone could see the things that I could see. Wasn’t it obvious that our lives are shaped by hundreds of years of history? Wasn’t it obvious that luck is an essential part of success? Wasn’t it obvious that the education system has less to do with “educating” and more to [...]
I Think Therefore I Yam
I was puzzled by a recent post in PsychCentral. I read it and reread it. I waited a few days to see what comments people would write. I looked at some of the other posts referenced by the author. Finally, I arrived at the same conclusion I had when I first read the post — this [...]
Thoughts In The Middle Of The Night
- What is the end game for ADHD? How do the final decades of our lives play out? Do we become tired, old gladiators, weary, scarred, hunched over from years of fighting the ADHD beast? Do we drag ourselves into the arena, throw down our weapons and let the beast consume us, or do we [...]
The Problem of “Keeping It Up” & Other Random Thoughts
Random Thought Number 1023: It can be difficult to keep it up each and every time. There’s the pressure to keep it up. There’s the embarrassment of not keeping it up. What’s even worse, you work so hard to make sure you can keep it up and sometimes you just fall flat on your face. [...]
The “Brilliant Reality” of ADHD
In my head I’m a brilliant writer and I’m chock full of ideas that are, quite frankly, brilliant. I’m often amazed at my own brilliance, the ways in which I can turn a phrase, analyze a complex situation or solve a vexing puzzle. Perhaps that’s the “brilliant reality” of ADHD. As a legend in my [...]
Thoughts on a Wellbutrin-less Theme, or My Search For the Gift of Adhd
Thoughts on a Wellbutrin-less Theme, or My Search For the Gift of Adhd if only I could sit if only I could sit I’m sure that I can write a novel or three a history book or two. if only I could sit I could write a new computer game, or create a painting or [...]
Have You Seen This Missing…And Angry…ADHDer?
I receive emails from many of my blog readers and I’ve decided to use the opening of this post to respond to a number of them. To those who have been wondering if I have been leaving her satisfied or wanting more, the answer is, “satisfied.” Therefore I have no need for those enlargement pills [...]
Knowing and Not Knowing
“He that knows not, and knows not that he knows not is a fool. Shun him He that knows not, and knows that he knows not is a pupil. Teach him. He that knows, and knows not that he knows is asleep Wake him. He that knows, and knows that he knows is a teacher. [...]
Time To Grow Up
There comes a time in life when we all must grow up, a time when we dispense with the mythology that brought us to our current stage in life. We stop believing in Santa Claus. We stop believing in the tooth fairy. We stop believing that ADHD gives us superpowers. Yes. You read that correctly. [...]
Integrationists vs Separatists: The Two Worlds of Diagnosed Adult ADHDers
Ptolemy versus Copernicus. Integrationists versus Separatists. Both are describing the same reality yet arrive at radically different explanations for the things they observe. For Ptolemy, the evidence pointed to a planetary system and universe where the Earth is in the center; for Copernicus, the evidence was best explained with the sun in the center of [...]
Hiding in Plain Sight: Adult ADHD In A Social Setting
I married into a very large family. My wife is one of five sisters. There are also two brothers. Everyone is married, everyone has children and many of those children are fully grown. When the entire family gets together the “children” bring their boyfriends or girlfriends. As a result, depending on who is “in town” [...]
How Do They Do That?
The world can sometimes look like a very strange place to adult ADHDers. They scratch their heads and wonder, “How do they do that?”
