The Problem of Adult ADHD and Friendship – ADHD and Loneliness, Part V
This is from “ADHD: Everyone Needs Friends, Especially Adults with ADHD by Attention Talk Radio” “Everyone needs a friend, even those with ADHD and especially adults with ADHD. In this episode of Attention Talk Radio, hosts Jeff Copper and Kirsten Milliken interview returning guest Dr. Ari Tuckman about the need for friends, what makes a [...]
PDF Advice for the Adult (and not so adult) ADHDer
We’ve all grown up with stories like the tooth fairy who exchanges teeth for money, or a Santa Claus who brings gifts for the children, or the miraculous healing power of mommy’s kiss for your scraped knee. (Editor’s Note: In homophobic cultures, “tooth fairies” may be known as “tooth deliverymen.” In non-Christian cultures, “Santa Claus” [...]
ADHD & Loneliness, Part IV
The illustration was created by Andrés Rábago and was posted in the Facebook group for Cultura Inquieta. Click here to see the other posts on the topic of loneliness. Note: I have decided not to unpack what, I believe, are the multiple layers of meaning in this illustration. I don’t want to influence your interpretation [...]
ADHD & Loneliness, Part III
ADHDers have the wrong expectations of non-ADHDers. We think they are like us. Foolishly we reveal something of our inner lives — show our vulnerability — and we assume that as a gesture of good faith they will do the same. So we peel back our skin, exposing muscles, organs and nerves. See, this is what [...]
Adult ADHD and Loneliness, Part II
Based on the comments and emails I’ve received in response to the post on ADHD and loneliness (see: ADHD and Loneliness), I feel it’s necessary to clarify and amplify a few points. My observations were based on discussions I’ve had with other ADHDers, which means it’s a very small sample size and not at all [...]
Adult ADHD and Loneliness
Simple Observation: Adult ADHDers usually have no friends. I have not done any study on this phenomenon nor have I consulted the Google Oracle for wisdom. I base this observation purely on anecdotes, on conversations I’ve had with numerous adult ADHDers who have told me that for most of their life they had no friends. [...]
Marko Ferek and the Holy Trinity of Self-Delusion
For years I assumed that everyone could see the things that I could see. Wasn’t it obvious that our lives are shaped by hundreds of years of history? Wasn’t it obvious that luck is an essential part of success? Wasn’t it obvious that the education system has less to do with “educating” and more to [...]
A Story About Adult ADHD
The Everyday Health website has a post about an ADHDer who managed to control his symptoms. It was a challenge but he did succeed. I hope you find the post to be of interest. After years of ADHD symptoms and struggles — dating back to elementary school — Jeff Siegel was diagnosed with ADHD at [...]
The Problem of “Keeping It Up” & Other Random Thoughts
Random Thought Number 1023: It can be difficult to keep it up each and every time. There’s the pressure to keep it up. There’s the embarrassment of not keeping it up. What’s even worse, you work so hard to make sure you can keep it up and sometimes you just fall flat on your face. [...]
Thoughts on a Wellbutrin-less Theme, or My Search For the Gift of Adhd
Thoughts on a Wellbutrin-less Theme, or My Search For the Gift of Adhd if only I could sit if only I could sit I’m sure that I can write a novel or three a history book or two. if only I could sit I could write a new computer game, or create a painting or [...]
Weeds, Plugs and ADHD
The weeds are winning. Those tenacious bastards seem to grow within hours. Pull out a bunch of weeds in the morning and, damn it, you swear they are back by the afternoon. Spray weed killer on Saturday, watch them wilt on Sunday, and by Monday they are back. These parasites have infiltrated my lawn and [...]
My Head Hurts: Life As A Natural Born CTD
Must ADHDers struggle with the same issues? Admittedly, I am not like every other ADHDer so perhaps my situation is unique. For example, I’m quite good-looking, intelligent, witty, entertaining, creative and modest. I was also diagnosed late in life so the benefits of ADHD (in addition to modesty), such as the inability to handle money, [...]
Don’t Worry…Get Angry
I use Verizon for all of my communication needs. I have four cell phones (one for each family member), one land line and one FIOS internet connection. I receive two monthly bills. One bill is for my cell phones, the other bill combines the charges for my land line and FIOS internet…well…it used to. On [...]
From The Archives: It’s All About Choices
To be human is to be confronted with choices. Each choice, like a fork in a path, takes us in a different direction. Some choices are inconsequential while others are, literally, life changing. Collectively these choices make up who we are at any point in time. [ Read More ] Print PDF
Minimize The Effects of Adult ADHD With Holt’s “ADD Simplified”
Adult ADHD has a serious downside. It effects every aspect of your life. Even worse, you cannot get rid of it. However, just because you are stuck with it forever that doesn’t mean you can’t reduce its impact on your life and this is where Sidney Parker Holt’s ADD Simplified: Strategies for Minimizing the Effects [...]
