The Importance of “Now and Not Now” in ADHD Marriages
Dr. Hallowell often states in his speeches that people with ADHD have only two concepts of time “now” and “not now.”. How true that is! If a project or idea is in front of a person with ADHD it gets done now or, if not now, then perhaps never!
This trait has pluses and minuses in the ADHD marriage.
Starting with the negatives (so that I may end on a positive note!) it means that people with ADHD have trouble planning to do something in the future. Notes, lists and other physical reminders can help, but it is a challenge to think ahead. In addition, they can have trouble anticipating what might happen as a result of their actions. Think about it - if you are genuinely positioned in the “now” when you are doing something, it is easy to see how you wouldn’t be considering what implications your actions might have for the future.
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