Comments on: Adult A.D.D. & Sex

By: Jeffs ADD Mind

Jeffs ADD Mind — Sat, 07 Jan 2012 16:22:00 +0000

“we ADDers may have hypersexuality in common” – Interestingly I recently found out that this is not a universal ADHD trait. In fact, it is more common to have problems concentrating for more than two minutes while engaged in the act.

By: Sistah Gurl

Sistah Gurl — Sat, 07 Jan 2012 07:21:00 +0000

Sex is about the relationship and bond that I’m creating with that person. If it were just about ne.. ..and my getting off… Well, I guess I’d just masturbate. I think that we ADDers may have hypersexuality in common. But other than that.. This is written from a man’s perspective.

By: Anonymous

Anonymous — Tue, 26 Jul 2011 03:25:00 +0000

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By: Jeffs ADD Mind

Jeffs ADD Mind — Sun, 10 Jul 2011 12:27:00 +0000

In short, this type of problem can be an ADHD issue. Some ADHDers are obsessed with sex because it has become a way to self-medicate. But there are other ADHDers who cannot stay focused long enough to enjoy sex. So, yes, it can be an ADHD issue.

By: z.h.

z.h. — Sat, 09 Jul 2011 03:34:00 +0000

can add keep a woman from becoming aroused? I used to get turned on when my husband and I were dating/engaged, but ever since we got married (and was temporarily on birth control,) I haven’t felt anything at all. I try to stay focused on what we’re doing, and I do enjoy it, but I never actually get aroused. And I am almost always the one to initiate sex, never him. Does this seem like an ADD thing?

By: Jeff

Jeff — Fri, 08 Oct 2010 11:26:49 +0000

Bianca, ADHD is a sneaky son of a gun so keep in mind that doing some more exercise and giving up herb will not result in miraculous changes. There’s still much work to be done. It will take time, patience, hard work and a healthy sense of humor. There’s lots of reading and thinking and self-analyzing to do. But it can be done. You can make significant improvements. It just won’t happen overnight.

“Re: zyban” – Wellbutrin and Zyban use some of the same chemicals so you can’t take them both at the same time.

Jeff
- sent via crackberry while walking the dogs.

By: Jeff

Jeff — Fri, 08 Oct 2010 11:08:34 +0000

When I stopped herb I did it cold turkey. Mentally I associated it with a part of my life that I wanted to eliminate from my daily experience.

By: b

Fri, 08 Oct 2010 08:18:41 +0000

oh, the wellbutrin, while it helps some with ADD and many with smoking, did it help with erb smoking??? how were you emotionally? how long did it take or cold turkey?

By: b

Fri, 08 Oct 2010 08:12:19 +0000

ya ya… as i wrote yesterday it dawned again and again and again that KANAKO!-now is the time! – then your response ! kanako-now is the time!
there are a few further problems to stop me sorting out some of this stuff NOW- im currently living and working in deep deep rural South Africa-mud huts and recently installed electricity! 40min drive from the nearest shop. i think right now isolation plays a role with the herb, i cant get bored on ganj, i also cant sing,paint,poi,exercise,organise, cleanhouse,garden productively,pray,play guitar, readand remember,write,meditate,play properly with the cats,hike with motivation,sew,think,learn to speak sotho…
ADD is a funny thing .yesterday i spent several hours trying to get goalsetting and timemanagement help, but was unable to write even as tiny a list as the one above… today while just flowing..there they are…its all in me,but where.. some of the things i love doing ive been doing for years…but not effectively…half a painting a year.

so…therapy is not really an option now, as the nearest therapists etc are about 180km away so 2hr drive and often charging more on weekends.
a change of meds should be easy enough, i just say what i need and a colleague writes it up for me, but i don’t want this, i need to find a Dr who will work with me on meds etc. i may try the stop smokn drug, is it the same as Zyban- a mild anti depressant that is often prescribed in SA to assist smokers!
thanks for the advice… but more for the support,soundboard, clarity, and taking ADD seriously, reminding me that it is something i should MANAGE.
i forget that it is a part of everything i do. and more specifically DONT do. you know, i feel like its just my personalty to procrastinate.

have been exercising for past two wks or so, but not daily.will add that in now. and the erb. gona start next month on that one but… i dont want another 5 years to go by with me only achieving some of my goals, and usually the ones where theres some kind of external pressure or motivation and then being completely unproductive in my free time in terms of personal and creative dreams/unwritten goals!

thanks again.bianca

By: Jeff

Jeff — Thu, 07 Oct 2010 13:30:47 +0000

The irony, of course, is that the side effects of ritalin affect a tiny percentage of people and ON Ritalin you do well. However, you may be better off on some of the other Ritalin (methylphenidate) delivery systems which spread it out over many hours so you don’t get hit with the Ritalin rush (that was my experience with it).
Medical issues aside, the best reason to stop the herb is to eliminate a factor that is affecting your performance. And you can stop smoking herb. It’s not easy but it can be done. I did it (and I loved smoking!) and I also stopped smoking cigarrettes. But stopping cigarette smoking was helped by Wellbutrin. This drug, while not commonly used for ADHD, has worked well for me and has the beneficial side effect of helping to stop smoking. What has kept me away from herb is I started to hate the sensation of not feeling connected with my thoughts and actions, of floating, so to speak. But the more you become comfortable with who you are and get more aspects of your life under control, the less you will feel the need for weed. And if you are not doing physical exercise, start now. You will feel 400% better within weeks. Even just 30 minutes of daily walking will make you feel better. (See John Ratey’s work on the brain and exercise.)

Time management, goal-setting, etc., is certainly one of the more vexing problems. I actually have a tiny article about it on the ADDitude website (at the site search for Jeffrey Siegel). However, while you may extract a tip or two at best (and from related articles there), you really need to expend a large effort on this issue. Gina Pera wrote a piece on time management based on a section of Dr Barkley’s Taking Charge of Adult ADHD. Read her post but also check out the book. It’s a no nonsense book about dealing with ADHD. You may also want to look for his website. Further, you will find that there are numerous ADHD coaches that offer books or teleseminars dealing with time management. I know Jennifer Koretsky (an ADHD coach) offers this but so do many others.

Jeff
P.S. I wrote this response on my Blackberry while doing my morning walk/sprint.

- sent via blackberry